The reason that I have to write about her is because I am one of the few who know her in and out. And she is and is being misjudged by all and sundry.
With her, I realise that people are often understood by the side they show to the world and it simply doesn’t matter what lies on the inside, no matter however valuable.
If we hide and don’t express, it is more likely that it will go unnoticed by others forever. For others ( by others I mean public in general) never make an effort to do an unbiased evaluation of a person.
Almost everything is taken on face value.
Thus , why do I know her well. Because she expresses everything in front of me. I know that things that make her cry and those that make her happy.
I have found her cry for things that hardly would move others, quite simply others might just indifferent.
She is my sister and she is in her teens. I tend to see her ordeal through teenage years daily. She puts up a good fight.
She is often alledged in school and outside of showing attitude which I find it difficult to digest. YES, SHE does have an disinterested look on her face which I consider is a phase of teenage.
Maybe this is mistaken as show of attitude.
With her experience I doubt my own judgement of people with attitude in all these years that I have lived by.
Were they really people with attitude or just indifferent to be nice to every passerby.
I never googled the meaning of “attitude” then, I gathered from the general understanding that it means to be so much filled with pride over oneself that not give regard to others.That you act arrogantly and disrespectfully.
Is it really that?
Now when I dug deeper….i realise attitude could be both positive and negative, though the general perception is that of negative.
Doing the things only your way not considering others ideas, wishes .thinking of yourself as above all and being a bit rude is showing attitude.(negative)
Being humble, kind and generous is good attitude.
Nevertheless, a lot depends on perception.
You may ‘Walk like you are the king OR Walk like you don’t care ,who is the king! “
While both may be taken as showing attitude as sign of arrogance.
At the same time, both can be taken as way of being unaffected by others in life.
So, it depend on one’s thinking and what one wants to believe.
Thus, they say it is never possible to make everybody happy. As long as we know we are right and our conscience doesn’t prick, we should be good to go in life.
As far as my sister is concerned, I will let her be and see her evolve in her own way for at heart she is good. I don’t want her to get in the pursuit of making everyone happy and lose herself in the process.
As far as I am concerned, I think I need to careful before I judge anybody as showing attitude. Rather it is better to not judge anyone at all.